{"id":2949,"date":"2022-07-08T10:21:53","date_gmt":"2022-07-08T10:21:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/?p=2949"},"modified":"2023-04-03T18:10:34","modified_gmt":"2023-04-03T12:40:34","slug":"guilty-of-motherhood-so-you-too-think-you-are-a-bad-mom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/guilty-of-motherhood-so-you-too-think-you-are-a-bad-mom\/","title":{"rendered":"Guilty Of Motherhood: Tak\u017ee i vy si mysl\u00edte, \u017ee jste \u201e\u0161patn\u00e1 m\u00e1ma?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Zeptejte se kter\u00e9koli matky, zda se nec\u00edt\u00ed provinile, a ona se v\u00e1s nezept\u00e1 'za co?' Ona \u0159ekne 'ano'. Proto\u017ee se jako ka\u017ed\u00e1 jin\u00e1 matka p\u0159ed n\u00ed c\u00edt\u00ed provinile za spoustu v\u011bc\u00ed. C\u00edt\u00ed se provinile, proto\u017ee netr\u00e1v\u00ed dostatek \u010dasu se sv\u00fdmi d\u011btmi, proto\u017ee jsou pracuj\u00edc\u00edmi matkami (co\u017e nen\u00ed pravda, ale o tom pozd\u011bji). Maminky, kter\u00e9 z\u016fst\u00e1vaj\u00ed doma, se c\u00edt\u00ed provinile, kdy\u017e cht\u011bj\u00ed m\u00edt p\u00e1r hodin pry\u010d od sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed. Proto\u017ee jak\u00e1 jsi matka, kdy\u017e se chce\u0161 dr\u017eet d\u00e1l od sv\u00e9ho d\u00edt\u011bte?<\/p>\n

Odpov\u011b\u010f zn\u00ed: norm\u00e1ln\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Nech\u00e1pejte m\u011b \u0161patn\u011b. Miluji svou dceru na kousky. Souhlas\u00edm s t\u00edm, \u017ee v\u00fdhody b\u00fdt m\u00e1mou jsou zna\u010dn\u00e9. Ale tyto v\u00fdhody p\u0159ich\u00e1zej\u00ed s jemn\u00fdm otiskem viny. Osobn\u011b jsem takov\u00fd mi\u0161ma\u0161 nahodil\u00e9 viny, \u017ee si ob\u010das \u0159\u00edk\u00e1m, jak to, \u017ee n\u011bkde nele\u017e\u00edm ve fet\u00e1ln\u00ed poloze a ti\u0161e si pro sebe nef\u0148uk\u00e1m. Vid\u00ed\u0161, moje srdce puk\u00e1 poka\u017ed\u00e9, kdy\u017e mus\u00edm odej\u00edt do kancel\u00e1\u0159e, kdy\u017e je moje hol\u010di\u010dka doma. "Necho\u010f," vzlyk\u00e1, "Poj\u010fme kreslit! Nikdy se mnou nekresl\u00ed\u0161." Nevad\u00ed, \u017ee jsou dny, kdy vstoup\u00edm do domu po 12hodinov\u00e9m pracovn\u00edm dni a hodinov\u00e9m doj\u00ed\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed a okam\u017eit\u011b se pono\u0159\u00edm na podlahu, abych s n\u00ed \u010dm\u00e1ral mot\u00fdly. '\u0160patn\u00e1 m\u00e1ma, \u0161patn\u00e1 m\u00e1ma' m\u016fj vnit\u0159n\u00ed hlas st\u00e1le k\u0159i\u010d\u00ed poka\u017ed\u00e9, kdy\u017e zav\u0159u dve\u0159e jej\u00edm vzlyk\u016fm a odch\u00e1z\u00edm do pr\u00e1ce. Tak\u017ee jsem vlastn\u011b vd\u011b\u010dn\u00fd, kdy\u017e odejde do \u0161koly d\u0159\u00edv, ne\u017e j\u00e1 mus\u00edm do pr\u00e1ce. Vd\u011b\u010dn\u00fd a pak hned vinn\u00fd. Proto\u017ee co jsem to za matku, kdy\u017e chci, aby moje d\u00edt\u011b chodilo do \u0161koly, abych j\u00e1 mohla v klidu odej\u00edt do pr\u00e1ce?<\/p>\n

Odpov\u011b\u010f op\u011bt: norm\u00e1ln\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Proto\u017ee se my matky c\u00edt\u00edme provinile za to, \u017ee netr\u00e1v\u00edme dost \u010dasu s d\u011btmi, je to prase. Podle studie University of Maryland v roce 1965 matky tr\u00e1vily 10,2 hodiny t\u00fddn\u011b p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm p\u00e9\u010di o sv\u00e9 d\u011bti. Toto \u010d\u00edslo v roce 2000 dosahuje t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 14,1 hodiny t\u00fddn\u011b. No tak, m\u016f\u017eete si \u0159\u00edct, co je 14 hodin t\u00fddn\u011b? 2 hodiny denn\u011b je m\u00e1lo. Ale kde se berou ty 2 hodiny denn\u011b? Dom\u00e1c\u00ed pr\u00e1ce? Va\u0161\u00edm \u00fakolem? Va\u0161e doj\u00ed\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed? Ani n\u00e1hodou!<\/p>\n

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Ty 2 hodiny denn\u011b poch\u00e1zej\u00ed z \u010dasu, kter\u00fd byste str\u00e1vila sama se sebou, kdybyste nebyla matkou. \u010cas, kter\u00fd byste str\u00e1vili sledov\u00e1n\u00edm filmu nebo fl\u00e1mem v televizn\u00edm po\u0159adu nebo mani-pedi nebo se sp\u0159\u00e1teli s mu\u017eem, kter\u00e9ho jste kdysi pova\u017eovali za natolik sexy, \u017ee si ho vezmete. K \u010dertu, mo\u017en\u00e1 to pr\u00e1v\u011b vych\u00e1z\u00ed z t\u011bch osmi hodin sp\u00e1nku, kter\u00e9 tvo\u0159\u00ed tenkou hranici mezi \u010dlov\u011bkem a zombie.<\/p>\n

A ty vz\u00e1cn\u00e9 hodiny d\u00e1v\u00e1\u0161 mal\u00e9mu k\u0159\u00ed\u017eenci and\u011bla a \u010derta, kter\u00fd ti \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 mami. Tak\u017ee je v po\u0159\u00e1dku c\u00edtit, \u017ee pot\u0159ebujete pauzu. Jako byste si rad\u011bji p\u0159e\u010detli kn\u00ed\u017eku nebo si dali k\u00e1vu s kamar\u00e1dkou nebo se dokonce soust\u0159edili na projekt v pr\u00e1ci, m\u00edsto abyste si se sv\u00fdm mr\u0148ousem hr\u00e1li \u201ePopelku-Popelku\u201c. To je norm\u00e1ln\u00ed. Jde ti to dob\u0159e. Va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b bude v po\u0159\u00e1dku. Pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b bude ve skute\u010dnosti lep\u0161\u00ed, kdy\u017e se nestresujete t\u00edm, kolik \u010dasu s n\u00edm\/n\u00ed tr\u00e1v\u00edte. Uklidni se, uvolni se, zbav se viny. (A pokud zjist\u00edte, jak to ud\u011blat v dlouhodob\u00e9m horizontu, \u0159ekn\u011bte mi.)<\/p>\n

Vedashree Khambete-Sharma je autorkou vesel\u00e9ho thrilleru 'P\u0159\u00edsahej, \u017ee to ne\u0159ekne\u0161?' a pracuj\u00edc\u00ed matka, kter\u00e1 se obvykle zbl\u00e1zn\u00ed.<\/p>\n

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Ask any mother if she feels guilty, and she won\u2019t ask you \u2018what for?\u2019 She\u2019ll say \u2018yes.\u2019 Because she, like every other mother before her, feels guilty about any number of things. They feel guilty because of not spending enough time with their children because they are working mothers (which is not true, but more […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2950,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[117,115],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2949","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship","category-relationship-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2949","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2949"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2949\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22313,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2949\/revisions\/22313"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2950"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2949"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2949"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2949"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}