{"id":3246,"date":"2022-07-11T10:20:30","date_gmt":"2022-07-11T10:20:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/?p=3246"},"modified":"2023-04-03T18:10:25","modified_gmt":"2023-04-03T12:40:25","slug":"friendship-goal-keep-your-partner-close-but-female-friends-closer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/friendship-goal-keep-your-partner-close-but-female-friends-closer\/","title":{"rendered":"Udr\u017eujte sv\u00e9ho partnera a kamar\u00e1dky bl\u00edzko"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Markle jsem potkal prvn\u00ed den na vysok\u00e9 \u0161kole. Byla tam, odv\u00e1\u017en\u011b br\u00e1nila Hitlera a d\u011blala ze sebe pod\u00edvanou. Nutno \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee m\u016fj prvn\u00ed dojem z n\u00ed nebyl p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 pozitivn\u00ed. Kdyby mi ten den n\u011bkdo \u0159ekl, \u017ee se z n\u00ed stane jedna z m\u00fdch nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch kamar\u00e1dek, zasm\u00e1l bych se. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b, tady jsme o sedm let dol\u016f a tato d\u00edvka je dnes ned\u00edlnou sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed m\u00e9ho podp\u016frn\u00e9ho syst\u00e9mu. V tom je kr\u00e1sa siln\u00e9ho \u017eensk\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed; je bez soud\u016f a pom\u00e1h\u00e1 v\u00e1m objevit nov\u00e9 str\u00e1nky va\u0161\u00ed osobnosti.<\/p>\n

Ale m\u016fj vztah s Marklem nebyl v\u017edy tak siln\u00fd; ani jsem nem\u011bl \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 dal\u0161\u00ed bl\u00edzk\u00e9 kamar\u00e1dky. Na vysok\u00e9 \u0161kole jsem byl ve vztahu, kter\u00fd mi zanechal omezen\u00fd spole\u010densk\u00fd \u017eivot. M\u016fj partner napl\u0148oval m\u00e9 emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed a intelektu\u00e1ln\u00ed pot\u0159eby. Nikdy jsem tedy nepova\u017eoval za nutn\u00e9 p\u011bstovat smyslupln\u00e9 a pozitivn\u00ed vztahy s ostatn\u00edmi jedinci. Jde o b\u011b\u017en\u00fd jev, kdy mlad\u00e9 \u017eeny up\u0159ednost\u0148uj\u00ed romantick\u00e9 vztahy p\u0159ed p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00edm. \u010cas a zku\u0161enosti n\u00e1s v\u0161ak u\u010d\u00ed, jak d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je m\u00edt pozitivn\u00ed \u017eensk\u00e1 p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed. Teprve kdy\u017e jsem pro\u0161la osobn\u00ed kriz\u00ed, uv\u011bdomila jsem si hodnotu siln\u00e9ho \u017eensk\u00e9ho podp\u016frn\u00e9ho syst\u00e9mu.<\/p>\n

Zat\u00edmco se \u017eeny po stalet\u00ed navz\u00e1jem podporuj\u00ed, vyr\u016fst\u00e1me ve spole\u010dnosti, kde jsou \u017eeny \u010dasto proti sob\u011b postaveny. Fr\u00e1ze jako \u201e\u017eena je nejhor\u0161\u00edm nep\u0159\u00edtelem \u017eeny\u201c se pou\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed hojn\u011b. Jako spole\u010dnost n\u00e1m byly vymyty mozky, abychom v\u011b\u0159ili, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd, kdo nevypad\u00e1 jako \u201eide\u00e1ln\u00ed \u017eena\u201c, je o n\u011bco m\u00e9n\u011b ne\u017e. Popkultura ukazuje \u017eensk\u00e1 p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed v negativn\u00edm sv\u011btle a diktuje, \u017ee takov\u00e9 vztahy jsou pro\u0161pikov\u00e1ny zbyte\u010dn\u00fdm dramatem. Mlad\u00e9 \u017eeny tak\u00e9 upadnou do pasti myln\u00e9 p\u0159edstavy, \u017ee aby byly \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed pro opa\u010dn\u00e9 pohlav\u00ed, mus\u00ed b\u00fdt \u201eholka pro chlapy\u201c. Pravda v\u0161ak nemohla b\u00fdt d\u00e1le vzd\u00e1lena t\u011bmto myln\u00fdm p\u0159edstav\u00e1m.<\/p>\n

Siln\u00e1 \u017eensk\u00e1 pouta historicky poskytovala \u017een\u00e1m pozornost, n\u00e1klonnost a prostor pro intelektu\u00e1ln\u00ed diskurz. Kamar\u00e1dstv\u00ed a p\u0159\u00edbuzenstv\u00ed, kter\u00e9 poci\u0165ujeme mezi bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi p\u0159\u00e1teli, jsou \u017eivotn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 pro na\u0161i emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed pohodu. I kdy\u017e se tyto vztahy v pr\u016fb\u011bhu \u010dasu vyv\u00edjej\u00ed, jejich v\u00fdznam jen roste. Bez ohledu na to, jak t\u011b\u017ek\u00fd \u017eivot m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt pro \u017eeny, \u017eensk\u00e1 p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed v\u017edy byla p\u0159ipravena podat pomocnou ruku, a\u0165 u\u017e to bylo p\u0159es bolestiv\u00fd rozchod, probl\u00e9m s du\u0161evn\u00edm zdrav\u00edm, dilema v kari\u00e9\u0159e nebo dokonce jednoduch\u00fd recept. Faktory, jako jsou podobn\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti a sd\u00edlen\u00e9 hodnotov\u00e9 syst\u00e9my, pom\u00e1haj\u00ed \u017een\u00e1m l\u00e9pe si porozum\u011bt.<\/p>\n

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\u017divot m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt p\u011bkn\u011b drsn\u00fd, zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b kdy\u017e st\u00e1rneme. Pr\u00e1v\u011b toto emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed a ment\u00e1ln\u00ed spojen\u00ed s p\u0159\u00edtelkyn\u011bmi usnad\u0148uje \u017eivot. A t\u011bch p\u00e1r okam\u017eik\u016f sm\u00edchu a \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed, kter\u00e9 si \u017eeny kradou ze sv\u00fdch ru\u0161n\u00fdch \u017eivot\u016f, je lep\u0161\u00edch, kdy\u017e je sd\u00edl\u00edte se sv\u00fdm d\u00edv\u010d\u00edm gangem. Markle je bezpochyby paprsek slunce v m\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b. M\u011bjte tedy Markle ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b bl\u00edzko sebe a uvid\u00edte, jak toto pouto prom\u011bn\u00ed v\u00e1\u0161 \u017eivot k lep\u0161\u00edmu.<\/p>\n

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I met Markle on the first day of college. There she was, audaciously defending Hitler and making a spectacle of herself. Needless to say, my first impression of her was not very positive. If someone were to tell me that day that she would end up becoming one of my closest friends, I would have […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3248,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[117,115],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3246","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship","category-relationship-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3246","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3246"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3246\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22278,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3246\/revisions\/22278"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3248"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3246"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3246"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3246"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}