{"id":3396,"date":"2022-07-13T10:08:53","date_gmt":"2022-07-13T10:08:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/?p=3396"},"modified":"2023-04-03T18:10:23","modified_gmt":"2023-04-03T12:40:23","slug":"open-marriages-the-case-against-monogamy-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/open-marriages-the-case-against-monogamy-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Otev\u0159en\u00e1 man\u017eelstv\u00ed a p\u0159\u00edpad proti monogamii \u2013 \u010d\u00e1st 1"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3397 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" alt=\"Open Marriages\" width=\"1125\" height=\"750\" data-src=\"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/featured-28.jpeg\"><\/p>\n<p>Dokud n\u00e1s smrt nerozd\u011bl\u00ed?<\/p>\n<p><em>&quot;Jsi m\u016fj!&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&quot;Pat\u0159\u00edme k sob\u011b.&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&quot;Nel\u00edb\u00ed se mi, \u017ee s tebou flirtuje.&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&quot;Pro\u010d ses d\u00edval na tu \u017eenu?&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&quot;Jak jsi m\u011b mohl podv\u00e1d\u011bt?&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd \u201ev\u00e1\u017en\u00fd\u201c vztah je postaven na p\u0159edpokladu v\u011brnosti, sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed i emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed, jedin\u00e9mu partnerovi. Seznamov\u00e1n\u00ed se st\u00e1v\u00e1 v\u00e1\u017en\u00fdm, kdy\u017e se rozhodneme j\u00edt \u201eexkluzivn\u011b\u201c. A kdy\u017e se zd\u00e1, \u017ee to funguje dostate\u010dn\u011b dlouho, ud\u011bl\u00e1me dal\u0161\u00ed krok: zasnouben\u00ed a pot\u00e9 svatbu, co\u017e n\u00e1s p\u0159iv\u00e1d\u00ed st\u00e1le bl\u00ed\u017ee k celo\u017eivotn\u00edmu monogamn\u00edmu vztahu.<\/p>\n<p>Jak st\u00e1rneme, pozn\u00e1v\u00e1me u p\u0159\u00e1tel a rodi\u010d\u016f nedostatky, stejn\u011b je p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1me a milujeme. N\u011bkter\u00e9 v\u011bci hled\u00e1me u rodi\u010d\u016f, u jin\u00fdch p\u0159\u00e1tel a u jin\u00fdch p\u0159\u00e1tel u dal\u0161\u00edch citov\u00fdch pot\u0159eb. Ale n\u011bjak o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1me, \u017ee na\u0161i partne\u0159i budou hr\u00e1t v\u0161echny tyto role. Mus\u00ed n\u00e1s sexu\u00e1ln\u011b uspokojovat, nab\u00edzet emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed podporu, sd\u00edlet na\u0161e nad\u011bje a sny, b\u00fdt zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 a z\u00e1bavn\u00e9, hr\u00e1t stejnou roli p\u0159i \u0159\u00edzen\u00ed dom\u00e1cnosti a podobn\u011b.<\/p>\n<p>Nen\u00ed to trochu moc \u010dekat od jedin\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka?<\/p>\n<p>To navzdory \u0159ad\u011b studi\u00ed evolu\u010dn\u00edch biolog\u016f, kter\u00e9 dokazuj\u00ed, \u017ee po tis\u00edce let byl \u010dlov\u011bk polyamorick\u00fd, jako mnoho na\u0161ich opi\u010d\u00edch bratranc\u016f. Jako druh jsme ud\u011blali posun k monogamii z praktick\u00fdch d\u016fvod\u016f \u2013 sd\u00edlen\u00e9 rodi\u010dovsk\u00e9 odpov\u011bdnosti a bezpe\u010d\u00ed, kter\u00e9 poskytuje celo\u017eivotn\u00ed monogamn\u00ed vztah. Ale pokud v individu\u00e1ln\u00edch vztaz\u00edch nefunguje monogamie, pro\u010d bychom se nemohli p\u0159epnout zp\u011bt?<\/p>\n<p>V Psychotherapy Networker autor Tammy Nelson definuje novou monogamii takto: \u201e[Je to, sprost\u011b \u0159e\u010deno, uzn\u00e1n\u00ed, \u017ee man\u017eelsk\u00e1 vazba zahrnuje tekut\u011bj\u0161\u00ed my\u0161lenku spojen\u00ed s prim\u00e1rn\u00edm partnerem... P\u0159edpokl\u00e1d\u00e1 se, \u017ee mezi t\u011bmito dv\u011bma existuje prim\u00e1rn\u00ed vazba. partnery, ale extern\u00ed p\u0159\u00edlohy jsou povoleny, pokud neohro\u017euj\u00ed prim\u00e1rn\u00ed p\u0159ipojen\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>Vzhledem k tomu, \u017ee st\u00e1le v\u00edce p\u00e1r\u016f experimentuje s otev\u0159en\u00fdmi man\u017eelstv\u00edmi a \u010dasto je p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1, je \u010das se otev\u0159en\u011b pod\u00edvat na to, co je motivuje. P\u0159i hled\u00e1n\u00ed tohoto \u010dl\u00e1nku jsem se spol\u00e9hal na zpr\u00e1vy prvn\u00ed osoby o otev\u0159en\u00fdch man\u017eelstv\u00edch na online f\u00f3rech jako Quora, Polyamory.com a Loveshack.org.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Znovu vlijte do vztahu z\u00e1bavu a dobrodru\u017estv\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3398 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" alt=\"Re-infusing fun and adventure into the relationship\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" data-src=\"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/fun-1.jpeg\"><\/p>\n<p>Jak vztah st\u00e1rne, n\u011bkter\u00e9 v\u011bci se zlep\u0161uj\u00ed a jin\u00e9 ne tolik. P\u00e1ry se \u010dasto dost\u00e1vaj\u00ed do pohodln\u00fdch intimn\u00edch a fyzick\u00fdch rutin, a ne\u017e se nad\u011bje, jsou znud\u011bn\u00e9. Konven\u010dn\u00ed moudrost nazna\u010duje, \u017ee poradenstv\u00ed a l\u00e9ky jsou zp\u016fsob, jak vr\u00e1tit vzru\u0161en\u00ed - ale mnoz\u00ed se domn\u00edvaj\u00ed, \u017ee sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed experimentov\u00e1n\u00ed mimo dva lidi ve vztahu m\u016f\u017ee fungovat stejn\u011b dob\u0159e.<\/p>\n<p>Pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt znovu pro\u017eit\u00ed vzru\u0161en\u00ed ze setk\u00e1n\u00ed s n\u011bk\u00fdm nov\u00fdm nebo drama n\u00e1mluv; pro jin\u00e9 to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt opojnost fyzick\u00e9ho z\u00e1\u017eitku s nov\u00fdm partnerem. Jak \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 anonymn\u00ed plak\u00e1t: \u201eSexu\u00e1ln\u00ed p\u0159ita\u017elivost\/z\u00e1jem\/vzru\u0161en\u00ed je\u00a0<em>z\u00e1bava<\/em>\u2013 oba jsme p\u0159iznali, \u017ee n\u00e1m chyb\u00ed tato \u010d\u00e1st toho, \u017ee jsme svobodn\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>Nakonec se to b\u011bhem mnoha diskus\u00ed vyvinulo v, no, pro\u010d\u00a0<em>nem\u016f\u017ee<\/em>\u00a0m\u00e1me to? m\u011bl jsem\u00a0<em>nikdy<\/em>\u00a0vid\u011bl, jak \u017e\u00e1rl\u00ed. A nikdy m\u011b nevid\u011bl \u017e\u00e1rlit. Vyjednali jsme n\u011bjak\u00e1 pravidla o tom, jak b\u00fdt otev\u0159en\u00ed, a pak \u201estiskli spou\u0161\u0165\u201c. Na\u0161e pravidla: Vlastn\u011b \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9. Cokoli\/kdokoli je f\u00e9rov\u00e1 hra. Teprve pot\u00e9 \u00fapln\u00e9 odhalen\u00ed.&quot;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed experimentov\u00e1n\u00ed a zkoum\u00e1n\u00ed bez n\u00e1sledk\u016f<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3399 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" alt=\"Re-infusing fun and adventure into the relationship\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" data-src=\"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/image.jpeg\"><\/p>\n<p>Co kdy\u017e m\u00e1te fantazie (nebo feti\u0161e), kter\u00e9 jsou va\u0161emu prim\u00e1rn\u00edmu partnerovi nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9? Necht\u011bli byste je nutit do n\u011b\u010deho, s \u010d\u00edm nejsou v po\u0159\u00e1dku. A v\u011bt\u0161ina p\u00e1r\u016f se sna\u017e\u00ed naj\u00edt spole\u010dn\u00e9ho jmenovatele pro sv\u00e9 sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed vyko\u0159is\u0165ov\u00e1n\u00ed a jen z\u0159\u00eddka zabloud\u00ed za n\u011bj. To ze sv\u00e9 podstaty p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed s kompromisem na jedn\u00e9 nebo obou stran\u00e1ch a v extr\u00e9mn\u00edch p\u0159\u00edpadech vede k podv\u00e1d\u011bn\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>Otev\u0159en\u00fd vztah nab\u00edz\u00ed p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost sexu\u00e1ln\u011b experimentovat s jin\u00fdm partnerem, kter\u00fd sd\u00edl\u00ed va\u0161e fantazie a zauzlen\u00ed, ale s pln\u00fdm v\u011bdom\u00edm a po\u017eehn\u00e1n\u00edm va\u0161eho prim\u00e1rn\u00edho partnera. T\u00edmto zp\u016fsobem m\u00e1te plnou svobodu prozkoum\u00e1vat sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed fantazie, ale bez doprovodn\u00fdch nebezpe\u010d\u00ed \u201evystra\u0161en\u00ed\u201c nebo \u201epropadnut\u00ed\u201c va\u0161eho prim\u00e1rn\u00edho partnera.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Hled\u00e1n\u00ed napln\u011bn\u00ed ve t\u0159et\u00ed osob\u011b<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3400 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" alt=\"Finding fulfillment in a third person\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" data-src=\"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/third-person.jpeg\"><\/p>\n<p>Za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 to p\u0159ijet\u00edm toho, \u017ee na\u0161i partne\u0159i n\u00e1s nebudou schopni naplnit v\u0161emi zp\u016fsoby, jak bychom po nich cht\u011bli. Ale m\u00edsto toho, abychom se \u201espokojili s m\u00e9n\u011b\u201c, hled\u00e1me napln\u011bn\u00ed jinde. \u201eMnohem preferuji b\u00fdt neprim\u00e1rn\u00edm partnerem ve V nebo tri\u00e1d\u011b. Co NECHCI je \u017eena, kter\u00e1 c\u00edt\u00ed, \u017ee j\u00ed nesta\u010d\u00edm, ale nem\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt hledat to, co pot\u0159ebuje jinde. To je prost\u011b hloup\u00e9. Chce\u0161 si zahr\u00e1t v prost\u011bradle? R\u00e1d vyhov\u00edm. Chcete \u0161\u00e1lek \u010daje a p\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00e9 ucho? R\u00e1d poslouch\u00e1m. Chcete, aby v\u00e1m mu\u017e \u0159\u00edkal, \u017ee je v\u00e1\u0161 vlastn\u00ed, kdo pak mus\u00ed b\u00fdt v\u0161\u00edm, po \u010dem tou\u017e\u00edte, a ni\u010d\u00edm, po \u010dem ne? Uka\u017e, jestli ho pro tebe najdu, proto\u017ee to nejsem j\u00e1.&quot; \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 b\u00fdval\u00fd d\u016fstojn\u00edk n\u00e1mo\u0159nictva Ned Harrison na Quora.<\/p>\n<p>Zd\u00e1 se tedy, \u017ee \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00e1 otev\u0159en\u00e1 man\u017eelstv\u00ed maj\u00ed n\u011bkter\u00e9 v\u011bci spole\u010dn\u00e9:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Rozhodnut\u00ed otev\u0159\u00edt vztah je na z\u00e1klad\u011b vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho konsensu.<\/li>\n<li>Je postaven na respektu a \u010destnosti v prim\u00e1rn\u00edm vztahu.<\/li>\n<li>Oba partne\u0159i vypracuj\u00ed n\u011bjak\u00e1 \u201epravidla\u201c nebo \u201esm\u011brnice\u201c toho, co jim vyhovuje.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Uva\u017eovali jste n\u011bkdy o otev\u0159en\u00e9m vztahu? A byl jsi n\u011bkdy v n\u011bjak\u00e9m? Pod\u011blte se o sv\u00e9 my\u0161lenky n\u00ed\u017ee.<\/p>\n<p>V z\u00e1jmu rovnov\u00e1hy a neutrality na toto t\u00e9ma jsme \u0161ikovn\u011b sestavili body, kter\u00e9 je t\u0159eba zv\u00e1\u017eit, ne\u017e budete skute\u010dn\u011b p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161let o otev\u0159en\u00ed va\u0161eho vztahu, a tento kousek najdete zde.<\/p>\n<h2>Nej\u010dast\u011bj\u0161\u00ed dotazy<\/h2>\n<div class=\"su-accordion su-u-trim\"><\/div><div class=\"su-spoiler su-spoiler-style-default su-spoiler-icon-plus su-spoiler-closed\" data-scroll-offset=\"0\" data-anchor-in-url=\"no\"><div class=\"su-spoiler-title\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\"><span class=\"su-spoiler-icon\"><\/span>M\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt monogamn\u00ed \u010dlov\u011bk v otev\u0159en\u00e9m vztahu?<\/div><div class=\"su-spoiler-content su-u-clearfix su-u-trim\"><b>N\u011bkdy ten monogamn\u00ed uvid\u00ed, \u017ee otev\u0159en\u00fd vztah m\u00e1 sv\u00e9 v\u00fdhody<\/b>. Existuje tolik mo\u017en\u00fdch v\u00fdsledk\u016f pro otev\u0159en\u00fd\/uzav\u0159en\u00fd vztah, kolik existuje pravidel a dohod kolem jednoho. Podp\u016frn\u00e9 skupiny online i v re\u00e1ln\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b jsou k dispozici pro polyamorn\u00ed lidi a pro monogamisty.<\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Till Death Do Us Part? \u201cYou are mine!\u201d \u201cWe belong to each other.\u201d \u201cI don\u2019t like him flirting with you.\u201d \u201cWhy did you ogle that woman?\u201d \u201cHow could you cheat on me?\u201d Every \u2018serious\u2019 relationship seems to be built on the premise of fidelity, both sexual and emotional, to a single partner. Dating turns serious [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3397,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[117,115],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3396","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship","category-relationship-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3396","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3396"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3396\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22266,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3396\/revisions\/22266"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3397"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3396"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3396"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3396"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}