{"id":3402,"date":"2022-07-13T10:17:53","date_gmt":"2022-07-13T10:17:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hermagic.com\/?p=3402"},"modified":"2023-04-03T18:10:23","modified_gmt":"2023-04-03T12:40:23","slug":"open-marriages-the-case-against-monogamy-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test2.hermagic.com\/cs\/open-marriages-the-case-against-monogamy-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Otev\u0159en\u00e1 man\u017eelstv\u00ed a p\u0159\u00edpad proti monogamii \u2013 \u010d\u00e1st 2"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Open<\/p>\n

V prvn\u00ed \u010d\u00e1sti t\u00e9to s\u00e9rie jsme prozkoumali rostouc\u00ed po\u010det otev\u0159en\u00fdch man\u017eelstv\u00ed a to, co k nim p\u00e1ry p\u0159iv\u00e1d\u00ed. Neofici\u00e1ln\u00ed d\u016fkazy ukazuj\u00ed, \u017ee otev\u0159en\u00ed jejich vztahu ud\u011blalo s mnoha probl\u00e9mov\u00fdmi p\u00e1ry z\u00e1zraky, zbavilo se tlaku na jejich vztah a dokonce pos\u00edlilo jejich pouto. Ale otev\u0159en\u00e9 vztahy jsou spojeny s ur\u010dit\u00fdmi \u0159et\u011bzci a n\u011bkter\u00e9 z nich zde prozkoum\u00e1me.<\/p>\n

Je pro v\u00e1s otev\u0159en\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Is<\/p>\n

Ve sv\u011bt\u011b, kde se monogamie stala normou, dokonce i c\u00edlem, v\u00e1m konverzace o otev\u0159en\u00fdch man\u017eelstv\u00edch mohou p\u0159in\u00e9st spoustu ned\u016fv\u011bry. Nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00edm argumentem proti nim je, \u017ee nevyhnuteln\u011b vedou k ne\u00fasp\u011bchu vztahu. Ale to z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed na\u00a0pro\u010d\u00a0<\/em>jednotlivec nebo p\u00e1r c\u00edtil p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm pot\u0159ebu otev\u0159\u00edt vztah.<\/p>\n

Pokud zva\u017eujete j\u00edt touto cestou, prvn\u00edm krokem je zjistit, pro\u010d to d\u011bl\u00e1te. Je to proto, \u017ee hled\u00e1te levn\u00e9 vzru\u0161en\u00ed? Proto\u017ee to vypad\u00e1 jako hepk\u00e1 v\u011bc a zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee to d\u011blaj\u00ed v\u0161echny skv\u011bl\u00e9 p\u00e1ry? M\u016f\u017eeme v\u00e1m hned \u0159\u00edct, \u017ee to jsou \u0161patn\u00e9 d\u016fvody. Nebo to vn\u00edm\u00e1te jako \u00fanik z nudn\u00e9ho nebo nefunk\u010dn\u00edho vztahu? Pokud je va\u0161e man\u017eelstv\u00ed na dn\u011b skalnat\u00e9, otev\u0159en\u00ed jeho dve\u0159\u00ed cizinc\u016fm situaci jen zhor\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e uva\u017eujete o otev\u0159en\u00e9m man\u017eelstv\u00ed, p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161lejte o tom, co douf\u00e1te, \u017ee z\u00edsk\u00e1te a jak to ovlivn\u00ed va\u0161eho partnera (a d\u011bti, pokud n\u011bjak\u00e9 jsou).<\/p>\n

Jak dostat sv\u00e9ho partnera na palubu\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Getting<\/p>\n

Vychovatelka Anastasia Windsorov\u00e1 \u0159\u00edk\u00e1: \u201eToto\u2026 by se m\u011blo probrat p\u0159ed svatbou. Pokud si v\u00e1\u0161 partner nebyl v\u011bdom va\u0161\u00ed otev\u0159enosti v t\u00e9to v\u011bci a vy se o tom po svatb\u011b vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00edte, bude se v\u00e1\u0161 partner jednodu\u0161e c\u00edtit oklam\u00e1n, zrazen, lh\u00e1n atd. nebo v hor\u0161\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b bude nucen ud\u011blat n\u011bco, co je proti jeho p\u0159irozenosti. Kdyby mi m\u016fj man\u017eel p\u0159ed svatbou nab\u00eddl otev\u0159en\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed, v prvn\u00ed \u0159ad\u011b bych nesouhlasila s jeho svatbou a \u017eili bychom odd\u011blen\u00fdmi \u017eivoty. Kdyby mi to najednou nab\u00eddl b\u011bhem na\u0161eho tradi\u010dn\u00edho man\u017eelstv\u00ed, rozvedla bych se s n\u00edm a nikdy se neohl\u00e9dnu.\u201c<\/p>\n

Ujist\u011bte se, \u017ee v\u00e1\u0161 partner je zcela otev\u0159en\u00fd my\u0161lence, \u017ee hled\u00e1te emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed nebo fyzickou intimitu jinde, i kdy\u017e v\u00e1m bude i nad\u00e1le v\u011brn\u00fd. Nejhor\u0161\u00ed, co m\u016f\u017eete ud\u011blat, je donutit partnera, aby souhlasil s otev\u0159en\u00fdm vztahem, kdy\u017e na to nen\u00ed p\u0159ipraven\u00fd nebo mu ta my\u0161lenka prost\u011b nevyhovuje. Pokud m\u00e1te z\u00e1jem otev\u0159\u00edt sv\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed, ale v\u00e1\u0161 partner ne (nebo naopak), je dobr\u00e9 vyhledat pomoc v poradn\u011b.<\/p>\n

Zelenook\u00e9 monstrum je skute\u010dn\u00e9<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"The<\/p>\n

\u0158ada lid\u00ed v otev\u0159en\u00fdch man\u017eelstv\u00edch mus\u00ed v ur\u010dit\u00e9m okam\u017eiku \u010delit t\u011bmto obav\u00e1m: co kdy\u017e m\u016fj partner najde lep\u0161\u00ed sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed vztahy jinde? Co kdy\u017e (s)za\u010dne na tohoto nov\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka spol\u00e9hat i v emocion\u00e1ln\u00edch pot\u0159eb\u00e1ch? Co to znamen\u00e1 pro n\u00e1\u0161 vztah?<\/p>\n

\u017d\u00e1rlivost a nejistota jsou velmi re\u00e1lnou hrozbou pro ka\u017ed\u00fd norm\u00e1ln\u00ed vztah. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed z n\u00e1s jsou t\u011bmito su\u017eov\u00e1ni, zat\u00edmco jin\u00ed z\u016fst\u00e1vaj\u00ed nedot\u010deni. Ale uv\u011bdomte si, \u017ee p\u0159iveden\u00ed t\u0159et\u00ed (nebo \u010dtvrt\u00e9) osoby do va\u0161\u00ed man\u017eelsk\u00e9 postele m\u016f\u017ee otev\u0159\u00edt pocity, kter\u00e9 jste p\u0159edt\u00edm nikdy neza\u017eili. Je zaj\u00edmav\u00e9, \u017ee jen proto, \u017ee jste to vy, kdo iniciuje otev\u0159en\u00ed va\u0161eho vztahu, nebudete nutn\u011b imunn\u00ed v\u016f\u010di takov\u00fdm obav\u00e1m.<\/p>\n

Jedn\u00edm ze zp\u016fsob\u016f, jak se s t\u00edm vypo\u0159\u00e1dat, je stanovit si n\u011bjak\u00e1 \u201epravidla\u201c toho, jak pl\u00e1nujete v\u00e9st v\u00e1\u0161 otev\u0159en\u00fd vztah. (Vid\u00edte, nen\u00ed to v\u0161echno o svobod\u011b a \u00fat\u011bku!) Budou tyto vn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed vztahy sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed, emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed nebo oboj\u00ed? Budete hledat \u00fat\u011bchu a intimitu u ciz\u00edch lid\u00ed nebo je p\u0159ijateln\u00e9 i rand\u011bn\u00ed s p\u0159\u00e1teli a zn\u00e1m\u00fdmi? Jak budete tyto vztahy v\u00e9st \u2013 doma nebo venku? A co se spole\u010dn\u011b rozhodnete ud\u011blat, kdy\u017e to jednomu z v\u00e1s nefunguje: bude druh\u00fd partner v po\u0159\u00e1dku vr\u00e1tit se znovu k monogamn\u00edmu vztahu? A kdy\u017e ne, tak co?<\/p>\n

Dal\u0161\u00edm d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fdm aspektem je, abyste se b\u011bhem otev\u0159en\u00e9ho vztahu navz\u00e1jem kontrolovali a byli up\u0159\u00edmn\u00ed ohledn\u011b toho, jak se v\u011bci maj\u00ed a jak se c\u00edt\u00edte. T\u00edmto zp\u016fsobem budete v\u011bd\u011bt, kdy se n\u011bco neda\u0159\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed to jen na tob\u011b<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Pro n\u011bkoho je otev\u0159en\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 a uspokojuj\u00edc\u00ed resp p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00fd experiment.<\/a> Pro ostatn\u00ed by to mohl b\u00fdt komplikovan\u00fd nepo\u0159\u00e1dek, kter\u00fd hrozil roztrhnout l\u00e1tku jejich vztahu. P\u0159\u00edb\u011bh\u016f je dost pro ob\u011b strany. Z\u00e1kladem tedy je, \u017ee otev\u0159en\u00fd vztah nen\u00ed pro ka\u017ed\u00e9ho. Z\u00e1vis\u00ed to zcela na v\u00e1s a va\u0161em partnerovi \u2013 va\u0161e nejnitern\u011bj\u0161\u00ed pot\u0159eby, fantazie a nejistoty a porozum\u011bn\u00ed t\u011bmto z\u00e1klad va\u0161eho vztahu<\/a>, a\u0165 u\u017e se rozhodnete jej otev\u0159\u00edt nebo z\u016fstat monogamn\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Nej\u010dast\u011bj\u0161\u00ed dotazy<\/h2>\n
<\/div>
<\/span>Jsou otev\u0159en\u00e1 man\u017eelstv\u00ed zdrav\u00e1?<\/div>
Nav\u00edc to ukazuj\u00ed v\u00fdzkumy\u00a0konsensu\u00e1ln\u011b nemonogamn\u00ed p\u00e1ry maj\u00ed lep\u0161\u00ed komunika\u010dn\u00ed dovednosti, vy\u0161\u0161\u00ed \u00farove\u0148 d\u016fv\u011bry a ni\u017e\u0161\u00ed \u00farove\u0148 \u017e\u00e1rlivosti ne\u017e p\u00e1ry v tradi\u010dn\u00edch man\u017eelstv\u00edch<\/b>. To jsou samoz\u0159ejm\u011b z\u00e1kladn\u00ed vlastnosti ka\u017ed\u00e9ho dobr\u00e9ho man\u017eelstv\u00ed, a\u0165 u\u017e monogamn\u00edho nebo ne.<\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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