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HAHAHAHA, THESE ARE JUST TEARS OF JOY, SILLY<\/strong><\/p>\n As an episode of F*R*I*E*N*D*S so succinctly puts it, women talk. We do. A lot. But there are things we don\u2019t talk about. Not even with those with whom we share every little detail of our lives. Things like post-marital depression, for instance.<\/p>\n Never heard of it? I hadn\u2019t either, till I went through it myself. It\u2019s common enough though. According to relationship experts, it happens to one out of every ten brides. Why? I think there are two reasons. One, we read and repeat and believe fairy tales and romances, where a handsome prince marries a beautiful princess, and they live with happiness ever after and have children and\u2026 the end. And two, we tell ourselves and others that our wedding day is the most important day of our lives.<\/p>\n Believing either of those things is just setting yourself up for disappointment. And post-wedding depression. Here\u2019s why.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The insanity leading to your wedding day is joyful and chaotic, a haze of trousseau patterns, shopping, and\u00a0wedding<\/em>\u00a0playlists. It\u2019s fun. You\u2019re building yourself up for the day when you finally go from Miss to Missus. The excitement rises and rises and rises and then\u2026 you wake up the day after your wedding, and it\u2019s all gone. The most important day in your life has come and gone, and for the rest of your wedded life, you\u2019re left with\u2026 what?<\/p>\n The messy bits.<\/p>\n The towels on the bed. Morning breath. The quilt hogging. The snoring. The slow realization that the person you\u2019ve decided to spend your life with has a thousand tiny quirks that you knew nothing about. That married life comes with its own set of chores that don\u2019t feature anywhere in a wedding magazine. That you\u2019re going to have to cope with all of this, one argument at a time.<\/p>\n Your wedding becomes the party, ladies. Your marriage, the cleaning up afterward.<\/p>\n Not painting a pretty picture, am I? Sorry. But a real marriage isn\u2019t pretty. It\u2019s hard work. It isn\u2019t the end. It\u2019s the beginning of learning to love someone you thought you already loved. Of making your peace with their idiosyncrasies, even as they learn to make peace with yours. Of discovering how different you are and finding a way to come closer despite it. Of contemplating divorce over tiny things and reminding yourself that you married a good person and that your relationship can survive those socks on the floor.<\/p>\n Marriage isn\u2019t a fairy tale that ends in a happily ever after. It\u2019s an invitation to a lifelong joyride of magic and madness, where you work your ass off to create a happy ending every single day. Accept that, and you won\u2019t be surprised when \u201dthe honeymoon period\u201d of your first year leaves you underwhelmed. Accept that, and you won\u2019t miss the candlelight and roses those sultry romances promised you. Instead, when he offers to do your share of the chores while you\u2019re down with period cramps, you\u2019ll see it for what it is. An act of love. And a sign of a happy marriage.<\/p>\n <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" HAHAHAHA, THESE ARE JUST TEARS OF JOY, SILLY As an episode of F*R*I*E*N*D*S so succinctly puts it, women talk. We do. A lot. But there are things we don\u2019t talk about. Not even with those with whom we share every little detail of our lives. Things like post-marital depression, for instance. Never heard of it? 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